The trauma and stress caused by infertility is exhaustive and challenges the strength and resilience of many. Individuals find that previous coping skills that provided regular stress relief in everyday life are no longer sufficient for the chronic and often difficult and ambiguous infertility journey. New coping skills must be acquired to adapt and manage the complex and sometimes unrelenting stress symptoms of infertility.
It’s important to first recognize that by human nature, we are psychologically hardwired to pursue comfort in life. So when infertility reality becomes chronic and produces loss, disappointment, confusion and despair, it is human nature to consider fight or flight choices in an effort to resolve and/or avoid the discomfort. Eventually helplessness can set in, because even with best efforts to resolve infertility there often isn’t much progress- at least not soon enough. This loss of control is challenging and produces intense psychological stress and pressures. Here are some simple ways you can manage the stress and cope with this difficult time in your life:
MAKE SELF CARE A PRIORITY
The complex psychological, physical, financial and relational demands during this time leave even the strongest depleted. It’s highly beneficial to develop a daily strategy of self-care that replenishes, relaxes and restores. Physical exercise, meditative practices and social support are key elements of self-care during infertility. It’s also important to create a daily or consistent routine of these types of activities. This guaranteed routine produces a sense of healthy control over one aspect of life during a time when so many other aspects feel out of one’s control.